HOW TO HAVE A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
DEC 2017
1. A simple life is a beautiful life
As we age, this is something we appreciate more.
It is easy to find ourselves overwhelmed with things we want to do, ought to do, need to do and are avoiding doing.
Alone time allows you to keep this in perspective and prioritise what’s now important to us and what isn’t.
2. A Muddled Mind
At times menopause can make us feel in a mental muddle and totally overwhelmed.
Our minds have a filing system that, in part, works on its own, but it requires slowing down and removing yourself from the constant flow of information.
Alone time gives you the opportunity to step away from things and realign yourself to what is important.
3. Understand Yourself
By understanding the way you perceive the world, you gain insight into you as an individual, probably something you haven’t done in a long while.
By spending time alone you will have more time to consciously roam around in your mind, to notice the way you think, notice the way your thoughts interact with the physical world, and notice how you judge both the outside world and yourself.
In other words, you are getting to know who you are now, which probably won’t be the same person you were 20 years ago.
4. Learn To Differentiate
Because we don’t differentiate between ourselves and our thoughts, anxiety quickly builds.
If we are overwhelmed by all the thoughts we’re having, not being able to slow them down because we feel they are a part of us, we begin to feel out of control and stressed.
If the thoughts are negative, they end up affecting us profoundly.
Spending more time on your lonesome will allow you the opportunity to set your mind straight and rid yourself of unnecessary negative thoughts, alleviating your anxiety.
5. Life Isn't A Race
Life isn’t a race. If it were, then you should be trying to avoid the finish line, not get there sooner!
Taking the time to slow down and enjoy the little things - the air around you, the chair you are sitting in, the way your tongue feels pressed against your teeth - will bring you greater joy than you ever thought possible.
Being alive should be enough to make you happy. If it doesn’t, you need to slow down and remove yourself from distractions.
6. The More You Own, The More IT Owns You
The only way to achieve sustainable happiness is to be happy with the bare minimum.
Why? Maintaining anything requires constants and the only thing you can never lose and never have to worry about losing is you. You will always have you.
You can lose everything else, but you can’t lose you. Learn to be happy with just yourself and everything else positive that comes your way will only be a very pleasant surprise.
7. Don't Be Afraid Of Knowing Yourself
People seem to be afraid of being alone and getting to know themselves because they are afraid of what they’ll find. Their egos don’t like their minds doing the digging because they will surely find soft spots.
We all have our weaknesses. You can choose to ignore them or you can understand them and learn how to position yourself in a way where you either work on them or avoid having to expose them.
8. We Are Born Alone and We Die Alone.
What few come to realise is that the majority of our lives we actually spend alone.
We spend a lot of our lives trying not to be alone, true, but in reality, we are alone the entire time. That’s okay. In fact, it’s wonderful.
You are you and just you. You are unique. You are one of a kind. You don’t need anyone else to make you better because you are amazing just the way you are. You’re simply choosing to ignore that fact.
